How do you manage to work with people whom you are not comfortable with?

* You just have to force yourself to do it. It's part of being an adult. There is no trick or special secret.How do you manage to work with people whom you are not comfortable with?
Be their friend. Be on alert looking for opportunities to be nice and make them feel appreciated. Just do not exaggerate or go too much out of your way because they will see that is not sincere. If they fall, extend your hand to help them get up. It their car battery dies, bring you car and jumper cables. Offer them a smile. After all, by doing these things, I have made friends out of enemies.How do you manage to work with people whom you are not comfortable with?
Here's exactly what happened ( %26amp; happens) to me:

I see this woman, this irritating, condescending, bigoted, narrow-minded person, approaching me, and suddenly I flash on the OYSTER TECHNIQUE.

I learned the OYSTER TECHNIQUE when I was a practicing Christian, and it still haunts me.

The oyster is bothered by a tiny, minute grain of sand. It excretes a special coating to cover the grain, and keeps applying the coating so the sand doesn't irritate it further. Before you know it: a PEARL.

So, in my mind I 'coat' her with love (eyes rolling), thinking kind things (like, ';there's a reason she's like that';) and being pro-active by offering aid AND asking for her help (she's a great helper, if not nosy).
well back in the day, id just make them obsolete, nowadays i fire em or run em off.
You just have to try to manage it. Try to be pleasant as much as it depends on you but try to stick to staying focused on doing your job. If someone else is affecting your ablility to do your job, keep a log of what they are saying or doing so that you can show it to your boss or HR.
sometimes you have to give yourself a little perspective - you are being paid to be at work, it is not where you would choose to spend your time if you weren't being paid, - but it is also true that you are being paid to work with your coworkers, even if they are not the people you would spend time with if you were not being paid to do so.



it is not a bad idea, though, to keep a log of some of the worst of behaviors - if you notice patterns, and especially if coworkers are abusive or obnoxious in any sexist or racist way - then by documenting specific examples of their behavior you will have good reason to complain to your supervisors or HR
tolerance
Hey, this is a great learning experience to be able to accept people as they are and not as you wish them or want them to be. So, be kind and nice and ask them what you can do to help them out. Ask God to help you be as He would want you to be with them.
avoid them
If most people simply did their own job, and concentrated on that; then kept their personal lives personal there wouldn't be all this drama about who you are or are not ';comfortable'; with. Comfortable is such a lousy, new PC word meaning I want it my way, My Way, MY WAY!!!



Minding ones own business might be a way to start.
I know where you are coming from..I have the same problem..People calling off...People leaving early cause they feel like it..people on there cell phones when they know it is not allowed..so on and so on..it does piss me off..but what can you do?..I went to my department manager and the store manager..but of course nothing happens...Like yesterday i went into work at 2pm..when i got there one of my Coworkers was there working in the Seafood dept..all went well..she left at 4pm..at about 9pm an hour before we closed..she calls off for today..(her hours were from 8am to 3pm)..her excuse was..I can't come in cause i wouldn't be good for anyone..I'm not sick..i had a fight with my boyfriend and i need time to think..LMAO..yep this is the kind of stuff i have to deal with..So i just left a note to the dept manager that she wasn't coming in!!...it's uncomfortable for me cause I'm always the first one on the list that gets called in
Ignore them, and treat them as if they do not exist.
I try to avoid them as much as I can. Or just speak to them about the work, not about personal things. Then I hope they'll quit :) it has happened a few times